Are you aware that person next to you is making so much effort?

Yesterday, I was having a talk with Dey (aka my fiancée) and she told that (these are not the exact words, sorry Dey) that often in a couple, the man (or woman, sorry Dey, lol) is not aware of the effort made by the woman (or man, sorry Dey, I know it’s starting to be weird). Why it is so?

I’m so sorry when I see couple where one is making so much effort and the other one is not making a single effort to please the other one, to make their relationship better. I’ve come to a point that I’ve been asking myself whether I’m aware about the effort that Dey is making (Perhaps that what Dey wanted to tell me, lol).
The answer why people doesn’t see the effort they other one is making because it is not what they are expecting the one to do. Let’s take an example: I want Dey to prepare tea for me when I come back home late. Some days later, I come back home and Dey, as my beautiful and caring (and a chef) prepared a good meal. I’m sure of not seeing the effort she’s made for me because I was not expecting it. People are made in such a way that they sees what effort they are making and not what the other is making. Why it is such? I don’t know but it is as such.

In this case, it was obvious that Dey made an effort but I didn’t notice it because I wasn’t expecting it: who is right and who is wrong. Both are right and both will be wrong if this situation ends in a fight. But if the I say :” That’s good Dey, you are so caring girl. But before, let me have some tea and then I’ll take care of that delicious meal…take care of you too baby” the situation will be ok.

So, this is a kind of situation when there was two options, fight or calm down and we can see that the fight could have easily be started but that with some appropriate words, everything was ok.

So girls and guys (not always guys and girls) just take a better look around you and you’ll notice all these effort your mate are doing for you…

Cheerio to everyone…