Category Archives: Thought
May 16, 2009 I prefer how I was to how I’ve become, you too. Changing might be dangerous.
People says that everybody changes, and even the band KEANE sings about it. It’s been so true since the beginning of time I think and one thing that can be dangerous about changes is that we might change in the bad way. What do I mean by changing in the bad way.
I was reading this blog from the beginning, I was reading the first posts and I came across one which says
Tell her you are proud about her success where I outlined the fact that we must always tell the person we love how precious she is to us and how we are proud of every little thing she succeeds in. I ended the post with “I like to be a mushy”. But since then I’ve changes and you too. I no more want to be call a mushy. This doesn’t mean we don’t like our partner anymore but some changes occurred with made us different from what we were before. You no more do these little things that made her felt you love her. When was the last time you cooked her favorite dish together, when was the last time you both got some time to relax?
We must confess that there are some changes that are really appreciated, like being no more ashamed of doing things in front of her but we must remains as much as possible the persons our partner liked in the beginning. Always remember, she liked us as we were, not as she thought we would be later on.
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May 15, 2009 I’ve read the bible and saw what it says about love. Oh my God!!!
Yesterday I was at the bible school and when the Pastor was teaching, I saw a well known verse about what the God says about love. I’ve read this verse several time since I’ve started to read the bible and yesterday it strikes me because I realised everything I’ve written since now can be resumed in these verses. My advice is, even though you are not Christian or doesn’t read the bible, just read the following verses as if it was one of my post and believe me, it might helps. And for those who studied the bible, read this and try to study it.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
1 Corinthians Chapter 13: Verse 4 – 13 (Taken from the bible New International Version)
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September 13, 2008 Need to be next to you
I wished I was the one who wrote the song but unfortunately someone else wrote it before me. But whatever, the person (Leigh Nash) did a very good work translating the feelings into words.
Been running from this feeling for so long
Telling my heart I didn’t need it
Pretending I was better off alone
But I know that it’s just a lie
So afraid to take a chance again
So afraid of what I feel inside
But I need to be next to you
Oh I, oh I
I need to share every breath of you
Oh I, oh I
I need to know I can see you smile each morning
Look into your eyes each night for the rest of my life
Here with you, near with you, oh I
I need to be next to you
Need to be next to you
Right here with you is right where I belong
I lose my mind if I can’t see you
Without you there’s nothing in this life
That would make life worth living for
I can’t make it if you’re not there
I can’t fight what I feel any more
Cause I need to be next to you
Oh I, oh I
I need to share every breath of you
Oh I, oh I
I need to know I can see you smile this morning
Look into your eyes each night for the rest of my life
Here with you, near with you, oh I
I need to be next to you
I need to have your arms next to mine for all the time
Holding for all my life
I need to be next to you
I need to be next to you
Oh I, oh I
Need to be, need to be next to you
Share every breath of you
I need to feel you in my arms, baby, in my arms baby
I need to be next to you
Hope you like the lyrics. The song is available for listenning on Last.fm.
See you and cheerio…
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August 28, 2008 What is a successful relationship? What are the standard you use to say your relationship is a successful one?
“He and she are having a successful relationship. Why my couple isn’t so successful as them, what are they doing to be so so cute. I’d loved to have such a good relationship.” she said and I replied: “You do have one but you are not even aware of it”. Very often, people (man and woman) says that their friends or relatives lived in a perfect harmony with their partner and that their relation is a success but what are the standard for a successful relationship?
We, people, we’ve set standard for a successful relation and a less successful one based on our past experience and depending on what we see around us. Say our friends say they have a successful relationship because it last long, we’ll assume that being together for a long time is a successful relationship but what if someone else tells us that his relationship is successful because they never had a fight since they know themselves, will we assume having no fight is a successful relationship? We assume things people tells us but we do not set our own standards.
Is a perfect couple one where there is no fight at all or one where the guy always bring flowers to the girl, I mean everyday?!
We cannot define a perfect couple firstly because there is not a published and set standard for love. We cannot define love that’s why we cannot define success in love. We’ve all learn that concerning feelings, each and everyone reacts differently due to our education, nature or sensibility. This not only depend on gender but every man or woman doesn’t react the same to feelings.
Secondly why can’t we define successful relationship is because we are not living the relationship of other. What does this statement means?! Let’s take an example and I’ll explain it to you. Say some guy bring flowers to his wife everyday and then cook dinner and they eat and then go to sleep. That’s fine and many girl (according to me) will say this is a successful relationship but believe me, not all girl will say this. Some might love changes; even if the guy don’t bring flower everyday, but be a little more unpredictable. Come home, we don’t have dinner and we go out to buy some fast food, go to the park, sit on the grass and eat.
See that simple example. This is a plain and clear way to explain that standard for love doesn’t exist just as standard for wooing a girl. We cannot sets standard and we’ll not be able never to do this, we can only live love. So, live love and forget about successful relationship to other. Your relationship appear a failure to others but appears as a successful one to you, believe me then, this is a success.
Have a good day and cheerio…
Tags: failure, flowers, long relation, perfect couple, relation, standard, success
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August 27, 2008 Do fear to lose the one you love. It is the best way to love her.
This tiny little post is only to share one or two sentence I’ve collected from the net. These sentence are true and means much to me.
Sentence #1:
The best way to love someone if keeping in mind that you can lose her/him at any time.
Sentence #2:
When having to do something for you alone, make as if you’ve got 100 years to do it but when you’ve got to do something for the one you love or with her/him, make as if you’ve got only 1 minute to do it.
Sentence #3:
Whatever happens, I’ll be always happy I’ve met you.
Sentence #4:
You mean much to me and I love you.
Sentence #5:
Thank you for coming into my life.
I’ve got 5 little sentence for now, I’ll think about updating the list next week, so keep in touch and cheerio…
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August 15, 2008 Saturday thought No. 2: Divorce are bad
I think romantic film are great source of inspiration for people who like to write and talk about loves, feeling and every thing related to human nature. Inspired from the film I mentioned in my previous post, there’s a thing which is very bad, it is divorce.
Divorce is basically the separation of two married partner but on a higher level, divorce is denying the existence of love between two persons.
There are two kind of divorce; one from a rapidly-deciding type of marriage where two people meet, marries after one month and this end in a divorce. This is called the “star marriage”, in reference to stars (actors and singers I mean, not the stars in the sky) who marries more than once in their life.
The second type of divorce is from the intelligent type of marriage but which ended in a sad way. In this kind of marriage, people waits to know each other and then they get married but even though they’ve taken time to know each other, they sometime ends in divorce because of several reasons.
I would like to underline something, when someone cheats on us, we are instinctively directed to leave that person because we’ve been hurt but there’s something more that leaving is forgiving. If you really love that person, you will forgive (even though I would personally not forgive that person because cheating is a horrible thing).
So, for my Saturday sick sad post, let’s get together and (sad) cheerio…
Tags: actor, bad, cheating, divorce, horibble, hurt, intelligent, singer, star
August 15, 2008 Saturday thought No. 1: How does she(he) know you love her(him)? Do you show her(him)?
Yesterday I heard a song which lyrics was “How does she know you love her? Do you show her?“. It might appear odd to you but the question is : “Do we show the person we love that we love them?”.
I was reading an article on a popular website where 8 women shared their cheating experience (I’m being cynic) and the reason why they cheated on their partner. Once of story I’ve noted was from a woman who said that after 3 years of dating her man, passion disappeared; she felt that the man she was dating did love her but he was not passionate.
There is a point in the sentence used by the girl; he loved me but she did not feel passion from the guy. Did the guy love her?! Did the guy show the girl that she loved her?!
Let’s come back to the song I mentioned earlier (it is from the film “Il était une fois” from Walt Disney, the French version). The girl performing the song drew a list of thing the guy should do to show the girl he still loves her and to show passion instead of “old flat” love (though I prefer love to passion, it last longer). Do you take her out for dinner? Do you give her flower? Do you tell her she is beautiful? Do you smell her hairs without she notices (she will notice but will make as if she doesn’t notice. Don’t this too often, it will sound weird)? What do you clearly do to show her that you love her?
We often seeks from our partner proof that she loves us but how about showing her that we love her firstly, her proof that she loves us will follow then. (by the way, if you really love someone, you won’t have to produce proof of love, love is self-sufficient and proof of love doesn’t exist, love bears itself as proof).
So for men and women show says that their partner are no more passionate, just show a little passion and your partner will follow and you’ll both cheerio.
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August 2, 2008 Why so many people needs to say sorry?
I’ve written some post on how to say sorry or why to say sorry. I’ve realised that these post were the most read one and that the most searched terms on the blog had the word “sorry” included in it. Why are people looking so much for how to say sorry, why do so many people need to say sorry?
If you are a new comer or even someone who is a regular visitor to the blog, I’ll underline two post I’ve written; “A letter to say sorry” and “How to say SORRY to your fiancée?“. These two post have in common two things, the amount of visitors on it and the fact that these post help to show how to say sorry. In fact, we need to say sorry and ask for forgiveness. But why don’t we change it and act in a way we won’t need to say sorry. The problem with asking someone to forgive is that people might forgive but they rarely forgets. There’s a saying in my country that sounds like this: “I’ll forgive you but I’ll not forget you”. It is a true thing in human nature, we don’t really forgets people. I’ve got an example some days ago where someone told me about a friend she didn’t forgive even though she said several time to me and to herself that she forgave that person. May it be chemical or may it be whatever else, there is a single thing, we don’t forgive really.
What should we do to get full forgiveness and have no one having something against us. We should not do something we are not proud of and then seek forgiveness. Just imagine if you ask for excuses 2 times per week. It makes 104 per year and in 10 years she will be remembering 1040 things you’ve done to her. Does it sound bright?! Indeed no. So, try not to make something you will have to ask for forgiveness later on, try to make things you know you’ll be proud of. Some might say that we are human after all and we make mistake, isn’t it?! Yes but some mistake are avoidable, so, try to avoid mistake as much as possible, it is for your own couple own good.
I think that my Saturday post (that I don’t do normally) might help some persons realise that saying sorry is not all but avoiding the action is better… even so, Cheerio…
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July 24, 2008 How to say SORRY to your fiancée?
Oh God, that word… simple word with 5 letters but so difficult to say. Someone came to the blog searching these words; how to say sorry to your fiancée. I think that there are many ways to say sorry but none is easy.
We must outline something in saying SORRY. We might learn how to say sorry: about which word to use or which action is appropriate for such mistake but there’s one thing you must keep in mind is that saying sorry is nothing if you don’t mean it. That is if you are sorry, you won’t need this post to learn about how to say it but you will ask for forgiveness easily but if you are just saying sorry for the sake of doing it, it will not work.
The best way to say sorry is with no gift at all: no flowers but only taking her hand in yours and looking at her deep in her eyes (she’ll understand that you are telling the truth) and ask her to forgive you. To be honest, this is why I do normally because nothing replaces a true and honest “sorry”.
Why saying sorry with no gift is better than coming with flowers and chocolate and saying your long learn poem to say sorry. There is a simple reason for it. Have you ever seen the part of film where the man offers flowers to his wife and she asks: “Tell me John, what have you done this time, with whom you’re having an affair” and the man replies: “Can’t a man offer flowers to his wife without her suspecting him”.
NO. A man who always said sorry with flowers and chocolate cannot offers these to his wife without having done something bad. You will see that flowers and chocolate or whatever you give to say you’re sorry, these things will lose value in the eyes of the one you love. That’s why you should always say sorry with two things; your eyes and honesty. Just believe me, this work perfectly.
I hope that the guy (or girl) who ask for some help about how to say sorry might be relieved but for myself, I think time is to say… not sorry but cheerio…
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Brian Light | Talking about love 
August 26, 2008 Brian Light Love Coaching
So, be quick and cheerio…
Brian Light
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